Taking on the SAHM lifestyle has shown me parts of myself that I wasn’t aware of and that’s life: a constant learning of one’s self. That’s how I see it, at least.
During the start of a new year, I usually think of a few things that I’d like to focus on but, to be honest, I’m never very determined in sticking to these “resolutions”.
This year, what with my new-found self-awareness in motherhood, I decided to make a short list of things that I wanted to do with (and for) my children this year. Small, simple things that (I think) will be meaningful for them and me!
Parenting is something you can get better at–that’s what I am going to dedicate this year to. Here is my list:
More Reading, Less Screen Time.
When I didn’t have kids, I swore I wouldn’t be the parent that let their child glue their eyes to a screen. Then I had kids and screens became my good friends. I’m a little disappointed in myself for this but I don’t condemn myself for it–I’m just going to do better.
My kids love to read but I want to be more involved and expand on that love. I’ll be taking them to the actual library for story times, introducing them to plays (lots happen in community parks!) based on children’s stories, and facilitating more reading at home.
No more “one book before bed”. I’m going to try to set their bedtime schedule a little earlier and spend the last 30 mins with them reading as many books as they want. That will be my commitment to them.
I mean, it really is just that simple. Both the kiddos went to the dentist Dec. 29 and came out with a zero cavity diagnosis. The dentist did ask if I was flossing their teeth…which I’m not..so I’ll do that.
Play Outside More.
My kids love nothing more than to play outside–even if its just for a little while. But I can be pretty fickle depending on the weather and how I feel after commuting all day…but the weather and the commute don’t have anything to do with my kids so I am committing to checking my attitude at the door and keeping my own issues out of my decisions to let the kids run wild outside.
More City Explorations
We are really lucky to live in a large city that prides itself in the arts and unconventional community engagement. I’m pledging to take more advantage of this in 2018.
Last week, Makenzie had fallen asleep early which left me and RJ in my bed watching cartoons for a couple of hours before bedtime. We laughed at the cartoons, Facetimed some family, talked about any and everything and it was wonderful.
I realized, in that moment, that I don’t spend enough one-on-one time with my kiddos. It’s hard when you have more than one, right? I spend a lot of my time finding compromises for them and keeping them from killing each other and turning our living room into a war-zone. I also spend most of my time splitting my attention between two kids who are really just trying to one-up each other.
In all of that, I lose the ability to really soak in their individual personalities.
This year, I’m going to change that. What are your parenthood resolutions?
Until next time.
It’s the last break of 2017 and the realization that RJ only has one more semester at his prep school before transitioning into kindergarten has really kicked in and given me some major anxiety. He turned five in November and I’m currently taking a break from his kindergarten application. Yes. An application; full of group evaluations and independent testing and financial aid and parent interviews. Im swamped. And a little overwhelmed.
I’m starting to really consider homeschooling. After becoming a SAHM and having more time to travel with the kids and spend more time with my family that is scattered all over, I realized that I crave it. It is, hands down, the best thing about staying home with the kids. Aahh, travel.
The thing is, RJ starting kindergarten next year means that all flexibility in his schedule will be gone. (Thanks, Uncle Sam). Here’s the (other) thing, I really don’t like being told what to do in my personal life by old people sitting up in Washington who don’t know me or my family or lifestyle. (Not trying to get political at all). I am also a very big advocate for education. But I want to do it in a way the suits our lifestyle, suits my kids learning personalities (and RJ and Makenzie are polar opposites) , suits us.
So homeschooling, right? I would start with RJ and leave Makenzie at her prep-school. Seems simple enough. But then, when would I work on my own personal projects? My business at Alice & Eddy Party? When would I have some piece and quiet?! Probably never. lol. But I could probably do it. Actually, I think I would be pretty good at it. No one cares more about the education of a child than their parents, I would think. I know that is the case in our home. My hubby and I talk about it all the time.
My hold up is: When Makenzie is ready for kinder, can I handle two kids? Two kids with different learning personalities and in different grades? I’m not sure….it (kind of) gives me anxiety.
Does anyone have any good resources for homeschooling?
Until next time.