Post 4th of July Thoughts

Post 4th of July Thoughts

Our 4th was pretty uneventful. We drove about 15 miles out of the city to watch a large scale fireworks show at 10 pm; we sat in the back of my little crossover, at some food from the restaurant who’s parking lot we were parked in and simply enjoyed the splendor of the cool breeze and food and family and love. It was simple and perfect. Not everything has to be over the top and planned out.

Then, as I tend to do, I started to really dig into my thoughts of the injustices of this day to the tribes/families indigenous to this country. They are here, vastly under-represented, struggling to keep their culture alive thanks to a multitude of things, one of the very troubling “things” being the United States government.

I am not an activist. I am not an expert on native tribes and culture or their struggles but I am connected with them so spiritually in the sense that I come from a family indigenous to the island now known as Puerto Rico (Taino) and I know how culture can be erased by colonizers in their (mostly successful) attempts to establish culture dominance. I know what it is like to feel marginalized as a black woman in the United States, my home. I feel a strong connection to other groups of colonized groups of people. That day, on July 4th, I felt that connection to the natives of this land much deeper.

On that day, I saw a tweet from The Lakota People Law Project that said, “Reminder: most of the people (referring to the holding conditions of people migrating north from South America) in cages are Indigenous to the Americas. Many of the people with the keys are immigrants.” That was a hard thing to swallow and it sat in my stomach all day and made me emotional while my husband and I stood, watching our kiddos watch the fireworks in awe and amazement.

Then, I saw another tweet (gotta love social media) from an Indigenous man that I follow that said, “no one is illegal on stolen land except for the ones who stole it.” The perspective of the indigenous peoples of this land, North America, is something to seriously be considered. The history is heartbreaking, imagine living in your home right now, that you built, paid for, maintained, and then someone you don’t know comes and says, this property actually belongs to me, you and your entire family can live in the guest room together; the rest of the home is ours. You’re also not allowed to use anything in the home anymore. And you live that way and every year this new family who has taken over your home have a house warming party to celebrate “their home” but you still live there….and the house was yours to begin with. WHAT?!

That is such a watered down, basic version of what happened to the original people but take a moment to think about what they must feel like watching Americans celebrate the way we do as the “land of the free” on colonized land.

That is where my mind went on July 4th. Yes, it’s dark and deep and not celebratory like you might want that day to be but my mind turns to these things more often as I get older; partially, because I have kids and I worry for their future and partially because I have gotten wiser and less self-absorbed as I have gotten older.

In order to be some of the good that I want to see in the world, I donated to the following charities that evening. July 4th:

Native Women’s Wilderness

The Navajo Water Project

These are organizations with amazing missions that focus on the equity of Indigenous peoples on this land that was taken from them. I urge you to take a moment and broaden and sharpen your opinions on this issue.

Until Next Time!



Mom Crush Monday – Weekly Round-Up

Mom Crush Monday – Weekly Round-Up


Idk why I wanted to virtually yell that to everyone but it felt right so there you go. 🙂

Happy Monday! Here is my weekly round-up of articles that focus on different aspects of parenting; a little bit of this and a little bit of that but it’s all good and I hope you find something that interests you.

According to this article, parents get the least sleep when their kids reach these ages…..what? My kids are 5 and 6 and I’ve been sleep deprived for about 5-6 years. lol. I didn’t even know there would be changes in this area of my life until they went off to college but the article made a lot of sense. It also breaks the stats down by mother and father. It’s a good read.

Here is a good article on stranger safety tips to incorporate into conversations with your young children which I found really helpful. Milly is blossoming into a very social spirit which is great but also increasing my anxiety levels because she is very confident in talking with adults. I don’t want to scare her but hadn’t really figured out the right words to say so I had just resorted to redirecting her attention away from the adult (usually a parent of a kid she just made friends with) but I knew I would need to get more direct with her on the subject and this article helped.

There have been some very brief talks about planning a trip to Disney World so, as a mom like me does, I started researching different ways to stay safe and connected with my kids in unfamiliar and busy areas. I found a list of some really great GPS/phone watches that are designed to track your kids down if (God forbid!) you get separated. Some of the watches also allow you to program 2-4 numbers into the device and have an easy touch screen for small fingers.

This article on emotional regulation is lengthy and, if I’m honest, I haven’t finished it but I’ve learned a lot about the science behind emotional intelligence and its regulation.

I was first introduced and fell in love with Kristen Davis in her role as Charlotte in Sex and the City. She was recently on the Red Table Top, talking about her process through adoption and how adopting trans-racially has changed her life. I cried. I also learned a lot. Give it a look-see.

Until next time,



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